Society recognizes who we are by what we have done, not by our inherent qualities, personality, or gifts. Once we graduate high school our lives are consumed by what we will study. It becomes who we are and what we are defined by. Adulthood comes with a list of skills we are not prepared for and a pile of expectations we did not foresee as students. From the moment you graduate college everyone wants to know where you are working, who you are dating, and when you will get married, quickly followed by when you’re having children. God forbid if you are not working in your degree field or if you are not following the expected path.
I am a prime example of someone who tried very hard to follow the path..I worked incredibly hard in high school to get perfect grades and be involved in everything. I got into good schools, lived away for a while, returned home, and worked diligently on my degree, all while being engaged to my high school sweetheart. I was following the path. I was doing what I thought I had to do, but I wasn’t happy and I didn’t feel successful. At 25, with years of struggling with what I have not done and expectations I have not met, I am beginning to understand that real life for most people does not follow “the path.” I am beginning to accept that I can only live up to my own expectations and not those set by society.
My purpose for writing this blog is to expose some of the flaws in “the plan” and to share my experiences. I feel that I have some fairly unique knowledge and I want to share it with you! Because of my experience studying abroad in the Czech Republic, I have friends from all over the world and a specific connection to Czech language and culture. Because I was a Czech Queen for three years and was successful, I have many contacts with Czech-Americans and local Midwest traditions. I also have an extensive knowledge of costuming and kroje, oratory skills, and talent preparation. These skills are also backed-up by my experience as a seamstress, my years of competitive speech, theatre participation, and my degree in music education. I believe that all these things plus my type A personality and close family ties allow me to write to you. I hope in some small way what I write will be a help to you.